34 Things I’ve Learned By 34

Black Mom's Guide to Calm

It’s my 34th birthday!! Since I was feeling kind of reflective this year, I decided to list some of the biggest things I’ve learned up to this point in my life. I hope you find them useful and inspiring for your own life — or that they at least serve as a reminder to you. đź’™

  1. I create my own calm.
  2. I can’t effectively take care of others and handle what I need to if I don’t take care of myself first.
  3.  I don’t have to wait for a special occasion to treat myself.
  4. I deserve the very best in life.
  5. I don’t have to sacrifice myself and my needs.
  6. Worrying is a waste of time.
  7. I am worthy and enough just as I am, simply because I’m here.
  8. My best is good enough, and my best varies from day to day.
  9. It’s important to protect my peace and energy always.
  10. Forgiveness doesn’t require re-connection.
  11. Setting boundaries and learning to say no are crucial when it comes to self-care.
  12. It’s okay to allow people to be who they are; I can choose whether or not to deal with them.
  13. Done is better than perfect.
  14. Feel the fear. Do it anyway.
  15. I’m exactly where I need to be.
  16. It’s important that I listen to my intuition. She knows.
  17. Spirit has my back.
  18. Everything is working out for me, even when I can’t see it or it doesn’t feel like it.
  19. I’ll never know if something is possible if I don’t try.
  20. It is possible to experience love again after breakups.
  21. What’s for me is for me; it won’t pass me by.
  22. Sometimes, I have to be my own cheerleader and encourager.
  23. I must make time for myself daily.
  24. My mental and emotional health are as important as my physical health.
  25. It’s important to appreciate the “little “things and the things I generally take for granted.
  26. I need to be in and embrace the present moment as much as possible.
  27. Go with the flow instead of trying to force things to happen.
  28. Trust in Divine timing. Everything happens when it’s supposed to.
  29. Life ebbs and flows. Learn to ride the waves.
  30. It’s important to cherish my loved ones.
  31. I have to enjoy my journey.
  32. I’m on my own unique path, just like everybody else.
  33. I should be open to new ideas, people, experiences and open to life being different (and better!) than I could have ever imagined.
  34. It’s important for me to love myself fully and unconditionally while also being unapologetic in my evolution.

#CalmTip: Give Yourself Permission to Rest

 

Black Girl's Guide to Calm

I’d been feeling really bad for the last few days, and yesterday, I finally went to the doctor. Like I suspected, I have a sinus infection. I had a lot I needed to get done (I was supposed to post this yesterday, plus send my Inspiring Note — which will be sent today — among other things). I really, really wanted to push myself to at least get something done, but I knew I had to get some rest so I could feel at least somewhat better.

And that’s what I did, I gave myself permission to stay in bed all day. I did work for like an hour or so, but I knew that if I’d tried to do more, the quality of my work would’ve suffered, and I probably wouldn’t feel as well as I do today, which was especially important because my daughter returned from her grandparents.

So, I want to encourage you to give yourself permission to rest when necessary. Although you may not have the option to call in and/or stay in bed all day, if you need to, try to get some rest when you get home. You don’t want to try to push through the pain (if it’s really bad) and make yourself even more sick or end up feeling frustrated because you knew you should’ve just lay your tail down somewhere. Listen to your body; it knows what it’s talking about.

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.” – Jim Rohn