Black Women Making History: Making An Impact

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It’s Women’s History Month! And this year, I’m celebrating by sharing a few dope ass women whose work I love and who I feel are doing amazing things. This week’s focus is on women, in general, who are simply doing some amazing ish (in my opinion):

Trelani Michelle tells the life stories of our elders online and with her book “Krak Teet,” and she supports girls and women in being free with her books “Women Who Ain’t Afraid to Curse When Communicating With God” and “Girls Who Ain’t Afraid to Curse When Communicating With God.” Additionally, as a writer and editor, Trelani has helped over 1,500 people showcase their personal stories through memoirs, poetry, podcasts and visual art.

Toya Moore is the founder of NProgress Consulting and Wellness OM the Go which provides lifestyle management that comes to you (with her mobile studio) including yoga, wellness coaching, nutrition education, fitness and more.

Latoya Dixon Smith is an engineer turned boudoir and wedding photographer. Clients love her relaxed approach to photography, and her top goal is to make them feel comfortable. Latoya is also the founder of Greenville Boudoir, a high-vibe, body positive  empowering boudoir studio in Greenville, SC.

Cheyenne, also known as Kamilah KaMaat, is an intuitive spiritual advisor, certified yoga instructor, intuitive doula, Kemetic reiki practitioner, certified life coach and founder of Sankofa House Savannah LLC. This “LIGHThouse of the Community” celebrates African spirituality and Native American roots, and there, she welcomes all who are on a mission to begin again by reconnecting with their true Self.

Akilah S. Richards is passionate about mindful partnerships and conscious parenting and uses audio and written mediums to amplify the ways that unschooling in particular serves as healing grounds and liberation work for Black, Indigenous/Native and People of Color Communities. She is also the author of “Raising Free People: Unschooling as Liberation and Healing Work” and host of Fare of the Free Child Podcast.

Itiel McVay is the founder of Smell Good Spa which cares for humanity through the well-being of women and provides products for those who love to live good, feel good and smell good, wholesomely. Itiel’s whole self is given with each and every creation, and her heart calls for those devoted wives, loving mothers, and conscientious women committed to the practice of actually living their wholeness as well.

Are you a woman making an impact or know of one? Comment below!

Black Women Making History: Podcasters

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It’s Women’s History Month! And this year, I’m celebrating by sharing a few dope ass women whose work I love and who I feel are doing amazing things. This week’s focus is on women who have podcasts I love.

overflo podcast with Timil Jones is a nurturing spiritual wellness space for the rediscovery of your sacred Self.

Black Girl Mystic, created by L’Erin Alta, highlights Black women + femme healers, spiritual teachers + modern day mystics who are changing the world by living their soul’s calling.

In A Little Juju Podcast, Juju Bae celebrates the rapidly growing return of Black folk reclaiming their indigenous spiritual practices while creating a space for us to laugh, question and recommit ourselves to liberation through the ancestral tools given to us.

Hosted by Nicaila Matthews Okome, Side Hustle Pro spotlights bold Black women entrepreneurs who have scaled from side hustle to profitable business.

With Shaping the Shift Podcast, Thea Monyee has created a pod about change and uncertainty for dreamers, creatives and folks who want to get free.

You can check out these amazing podcasts on Apple Podcasts and wherever you listen to your faves. And if you’re a Black woman with a podcast, let me know! I’d love to check it out.

 

Dear Black Woman

Black Girl's Guide to Calm

Dear Black woman,

Growing up, you probably heard that you needed to be a “strong Black woman,” or you heard your mama, aunts, grandmas, etc. described that way. And now, as an adult, you probably feel at least some pressure to be super woman and do it all — smoothly and with a smile being a mom and/or partner, working, cooking, cleaning, volunteering, taking care of your loved ones, not to mention dealing with societal issues like racism and sexism. You don’t stop to take a breath, to take a minute for yourself, because you don’t have make time. Deep down, you might feel like you don’t deserve to truly take care of yourself or you feel that someone has to do this stuff (and it has to be you, right?). I mean, who the hell is going to take care of everything while I’m chillin’? 

First, I want you to close your eyes, and take a deep breath: Inhale slowly. Exhale slowly. Now, hear me when I say this:

It is okay for you to be calm, centered, and cared for. It is NECESSARY for you to be calm, centered, and cared for — if you want to feel good, whole, at peace. And you DESERVE IT.

Let me ask you this: Does it feel good to be stressed out, burned out, frustrated, overwhelmed? I mean, yeah, you might be “making it” and “surviving,” but don’t you want to thrive? I know we, as Black women, are pretty much pros at keeping a survival mentality, of having just enough and saying things like, ‘Well, it’s not that bad; I’m still here,’ or ‘Things could be worse,’ or ‘It is what it is.’ Yes, you’re still here, and things could be worse, and you should be thankful for that. However, I don’t think that means you can’t or shouldn’t strive to live a life where you’re happy and calm most of the time. The late Dr. Maya Angelou once said, “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor and some style.” So yeah, you can continue on the path you’re on, barely making it, always feeling stressed and on the verge of burning out. But wouldn’t it feel better to choose differently, to live from a space of peace and have joy?

You might be saying, “Yes, Jamie, what you’re saying makes sense, and that would feel better. But how do I live from a space of peace and have more joy? How do I become calm, centered, and cared for?

  1. Decide that you want something different, and commit to doing it. Write down what you want, and make a plan.
  2. Determine what your stressors are so you’ll know what areas you can control and can’t control. (Here’s a worksheet for you).
  3. Make the practices that keep you calm and centered a daily habit. Examples include meditation, deep breathing yoga, and practicing mindfulness.
  4. Seek out resources and even professional help if you need it.
  5. Learn to surrender and go with the flow when it comes to things you can’t control.
  6. Practice gratitude.
  7. Make self-care a daily practice.

These are just a few general tips to help you get started. And if you have questions, I’m here.  : )

“True and lasting inner peace can never be found in external things. It can only be found within. And then, once we find and nurture it with ourselves, it radiates outward.” – (attributed to) Buddah 


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13 Mantras from Black Women to Start Your Day

 

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It’s March, and it’s Women’s History Month! To celebrate, I wanted to share a few quotes that you can use as mantras from Black women. These are great for when you wake up in the morning to set the tone for your day or when you need a little motivation and encouragement.

  1. “I am different. I am an original. And like everyone else, I am here to take up space in the universe. I do so with pride.” – Shonda Rhimes
  2. “Even if it makes others uncomfortable, I will love who I am.” – Janelle Monae
  3. “Fuck fear.” – Akilah Richards
  4. “Don’t allow other people to define what success is for you.” Tara Pringle Jefferson
  5. Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.” – Oprah
  6. “There is no happiness on a layaway plan.” – Abiola Abrams
  7. “You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.” – Maya Angelou
  8. “Success is only meaningful and enjoyable if it feels like your own.” – Michelle Obama
  9. “Bring your best to the moment.” – Angela Bassett
  10. “Follow your heart. It will take you where you need to be.” – Erykah Badu
  11. “I believe in me more than anything in this world.” – Wilma Rudolph
  12. “Do what makes you happy in your personal and professional journey.” – Mahisha Dellinger
  13. “Start moving and the inspiration will come.” – Valorie Burton

Do you know of any quotes from Black women that should be added? Let us know by leaving a comment! : )

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