#CalmTip: July 21, 2015

 

Calm Tip #6

Last year, I read a quote in O Magazine that has resonated with me ever since. Here’s what it says: “I once heard someone say, ‘If it’s not happening now, it’s not happening.’ That stuck with me — I realized there’s no reason to pre-freak out about problems. It’s made such a difference in my life.” – Aimee Mann

Pre-freaking out about the future does nothing but stress you out; and besides, you can only ever do anything in the present moment. So, focus on what’s happening now and what you can do now.

5 Ways to Find Your Calm as a Mamapreneur

 

Black Girl's Guide to Calm

Being a solopreneur is no walk in the park. In addition to working with clients or creating products for your customers, you usually wear all the other hats in your business, answering calls and emails, creating marketing plans, doing social media, etc. And if you work from home, you probably also have the added responsibility of keeping things tidy and maybe even cooking. Then, when you add a kid or two on top of that? Things can get more than a little hectic.

Now, I’m no expert at doing this work-from-home-with-a-kid thing; while I’ve been working from home for a few years, I’ve only been doing it with a child for a year and a half. But in that time, I’ve learned some things about finding my calm as a mama who works from home, and hopefully, they’ll help you, too. Here are five ways to find your calm as a mampreneur:

1. Meditate. (I’m sure you knew this was coming 🙂 ) Seriously, though, this helps so much. I know, as a mamapreneur, your time is limited, and you might think that you don’t have time to meditate. But, the benefits definitely outweigh how much time it takes, which, by the way, can be just five or 10 minutes twice a day. You’ll feel a lot calmer, more focused, and you’ll probably have more creative ideas that will help your business! I promise, you won’t regret taking the time to meditate.

2. Practice yoga. In the same vein as meditation, practicing yoga will help you feel a lot calmer and more focused. And don’t let the bendy yogis on Instagram intimidate you; there are plenty of other yoga poses you can do that don’t require a leg behind your neck or for you to stand on your head. Here’s a beginner yoga video from my go-to, Yoga By Candace.

3. Do less so you get more done. As entrepreneurs, we often try to cram in a dozen tasks in our days. Do we get it all done though? I know I didn’t, but that didn’t stop me from still adding a bunch of things to my to-do list. After I had Nailah and started working again, I thought I’d be able to do the same amount of work I’d done before. Needless to say, it didn’t happen. So, after I realized that what I was doing wasn’t working and that my schedule was causing me stress, I created a new one. Instead of writing down 10 things to do in a day, then getting mad at myself for not getting them done, I decided to focus on just two work-related tasks per day along with taking care of household and other things. Of course, every day doesn’t go according to plan, but generally speaking, trying to do less daily has helped me become more productive and get more of my tasks completed.

4. Take breaks. I know, it probably feels like you don’t have time to take breaks between your work and taking care of your child(ren) and home, but it’s super important. According to this article on FastCompany.com, breaks keep you from getting bored (and therefore, unfocused); they help you retain information and make connections; and breaks help you reevaluate your goals. Taking breaks will also help you feel happier and more productive.

5. Take a day. As an entrepreneur, it can be hard to take days off, especially when you’re in the beginning stages, trying to build your business and brand. It’s even understandable to a certain extent because you do have to put in the work and to get your business off the ground. However, if you choose to work seven days a week, you’ll ultimately get burned out and even make yourself sick. I personally like to take at least one weekend day off from work (or at least half a day) per week, but if you can only do one or two days a month, then do that. Figure out what works for you, and let yourself rest.

*Bonus* Accept help from your village. This one was really, really a little difficult for me. When Nailah was first born, I did not want any help. I didn’t want my parents to babysit that often (and they really wanted to since she’s their first) because my mindset was that I’d had her, so she was my responsibility. Even if that meant there were days when I couldn’t get work done because she was cranky or whatever, and I didn’t really sleep the night before. I guess I wanted to prove to myself (and others) that I could do this whole business-woman-work-from-home-mama-and-wife thing by myself. I guess you can see where this is going…it did not work. Although part of my reasoning for not wanting her to be away from me was legit (she was exclusively breastfed — wouldn’t take the bottle), I guess I can admit it was a little ridiculous. I’ve since learned that if someone wants to help me out, I need to let them. They now watch Nailah twice a week, and she even spends the night now! Every mama needs and deserves a break from time to time, and admittedly, I get a whole lot more done when she’s with her grandparents (duh). So, if you have people around you who are willing to help, let them!

What are some ways you find your calm as a mamapreneur? Let us know by leaving a comment.

 

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#Calm Tip: July 14th, 2015

Black Girl's Guide to Calm

When you have a lot of things you need to do, trying to do it all can be overwhelming. And when you try to do everything at one time, you usually end up half-doing things or you end up doing nothing at all, causing yourself stress and anxiety. One way to remedy this is by making a list of all the things you need to accomplish, then prioritize/number them in order of importance. Then, focus on getting one task done at a time.

 

#CalmTip: July 7, 2015

Black Girl's Guide to Calm

 

Most of us multitask (myself included) because we think we’ll get more done. But, that’s actually not true. According to studies, multitasking causes us to be less productive and our ability to filter out irrelevant information declines. Also, trying to do too much (and not getting much done) can leave you feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Try single tasking and see how much calmer you feel and how much more you get done.

#CalmTip: June 30, 2015

 

Black Girl's Guide to Calm

We often cause stress in our own lives by trying to make things how we think they should be instead of how they are. For the most part, you can’t control outside circumstances — you can only control you. You can’t control how much traffic there is or if there’s a long line at the grocery store, so don’t allow it to stress you out. Instead, live in the moment, and go with the flow.

#CalmTip: June 23, 2015

 

Black Girl's Guide to Calm

Journaling is a great way to decompress and get out of your head. Have trouble journaling? Write about how you feel and try to figure out why. Don’t worry about your grammar or spelling; just let it flow. Then, write about how you want to feel and what you can do to start feeling that way.

#CalmTip: June 16, 2015

Black Girl's Guide to Calm

 

If you have a hard time making time yourself and making your needs a priority, put it on your to-do list! That way, you’re more likely to actually do whatever you need to take care of you. “It” could be working out, meditating, reading a book for 15 minutes before bed, doing yoga, taking a bubble bath, etc.

Whatever you need to do to make sure you’re a priority, write it down, then do it!