5 to Days to More Calm: Self-Care

Black Mom's Guide to Calm

Today’s topic for 5 Days to More Calm is self-care!

First, we’ll start with a definition. The Oxford Dictionary defines self-care as “the practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.”

Many times, when people talk about self-care, it’s related to things like getting our hair and nails done, going to get a massage or going on a vacation. While there’s nothing wrong with doing these things (and they are a part of taking care of you), self-care is much more than that.  It’s about making sure you’re doing/feeling good and thriving physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. But as women/mothers/caregivers, it’s often challenging for us to actually practice self-care. Many times, we:

  • Feel we don’t deserve it.
  • Feel guilty about doing it.
  • Think we can’t make time.
  • Feel that we don’t have enough resources to do so.

Why is self-care important?

  • It can improve your physical health.
  • Improves your emotional wellness.
  • You feel better and are less likely to experience burnout.
  • It helps other people (and yourself) see your worth and know your needs are important because you’re putting you first
  • You’re better able to take care of your children and others because your cup is full.
  • It allows you to better deal with stress.

Here are various ways to practice self-care:


  • Pray/speak with your Higher Power/ancestors.
  • Spend time alone.
  • Try crystal healing.
  • Create a sacred space.
  • Practice gratitude.


  • Acknowledge how you feel.
  • Journal (about your feelings).
  • Find positive outlets/hobbies.
  • Get support by talking to someone you trust or trying therapy.
  • Try to avoid people/situations that trigger not-so-great feelings.


  • Be in the present moment.
  • Meditate.
  • Use positive affirmations.
  • Take a social media break.
  • Visualize.


  • Move your body.
  • Stay hydrated.
  • Get enough sleep..
  • Eat more healthful.
  • Take breaks more often.

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