#MeditatingInMarch: Start Your Home Practice

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Welcome to week 3 of #MeditatingInMarch! This week’s focus is on starting your meditation practice at home:

1. Find/create space. Having a space that inspires you and/or makes you feel peaceful will likely motivate you to actually meditate. If you don’t have an entire room you can use (I don’t), no worries! Just use what you have and get creative. You can use a corner in your bedroom or put your items (like crystals, incense, candles, etc.) on your nightstand or table.

2. Make time. To become consistent with your practice and experience the amazing benefits of meditation, you must make time for it. Ways to do this: 

  • Write it in your planner.
  • Put a reminder in your phone.
  • Schedule it in your calendar.

3. Start small. If you’re just getting started with meditation, you don’t have to start with an hour, 30 minutes, nor even 15 minutes a day. Begin with 2 to 5 minutes, then work your way up to longer times as your practice continues.

4. Be gentle with yourself. If you remember nothing else, please remember this: Meditation is a practice. There will be days when your mind won’t stop wandering; there will be times when it feels like it’s not working. Just remember that the more you do it, the easier it becomes (most days). And the more you keep at it, the more often you reap the benefits.

Learn how the Create Your Calm Meditation Experience can help you begin your practice. Or, contact me to learn more about booking a 1-on-1 session!

#MeditatingInMarch: How to Meditate and Types to Try

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This month, I’m doing a weekly series to help you get started with (or continue) your home meditation practice.

Welcome back to #MeditatingInMarch! This week we’re focusing on how to meditate and three types to try. One of the most common things I hear from people is they want to meditate (or at least attempt to), but they don’t actually know how to do it. If this is you, here are the very basics:

  1. Find a quiet, distraction-free place if possible. If you can’t, no worries; consider using headphones to drown out any noise.
  2. Sit comfortably with a straight spine. You can sit in traditional meditation style — each foot under the opposite knee, with your feet flat on the floor (if you’re in a chair or on the bed), kneel, or with your legs stretched out in front of you.
  3. Place your palms up or down on your thighs, or bring your palms together at your heart.
  4. Breathe fully, deeply, and slowly. When you inhale, fill your belly with air like a balloon. As you exhale, allow your belly button to go back towards your spine. Note that it takes practice to learn how to breathe properly, so be gentle with yourself and give yourself time.
  5. Release your thoughts. Something else people tell me regarding why they “can’t meditate” is that they can’t quiet their minds. Learning how to let go of your thoughts when meditating takes practice. And even when you’ve been meditating for years, you’ll still have to work at this. Again, be gentle with yourself.

3 Types of Meditation

Now that you know the basics of meditation, here are a few types you can try to see which you prefer:

1. Concentration.

With concentration meditation, you focus on a single point, like a word or mantra, a non-moving object (like a candle or figurine), or your inhalations and exhalations, counting to four when you inhale, then again when you exhale (for example). The idea is to focus the entire time, but you’ll likely find that your mind wanders. When this happens (and it will, no matter how much of a seasoned meditator you are), gently bring your awareness back to the chosen object of attention and let the thoughts go.

2. Mindfulness: 

Mindfulness meditation encourages you to observe your wandering thoughts as they drift through your mind. The intent is not to get involved with the thoughts nor judge them, but to simply be aware of them, and release then, letting them float on by without giving them too much of your energy or attention.

3. Affirmation: 

I’m not sure if this is the official name, but affirmation meditation is just as the name suggests: using affirmations while you meditate. You can find/choose affirmations for whatever you’re working towards in your life, like creating calm, joy, abundance, etc.

Here are a few tips for creating your own:

  • Begin with the words “I am,” and/or the present tense. Speak your desires/intentions as if they’re happening now.
  • If you’re having trouble believing what you’re saying, start your affirmation with, “I believe it’s possible to…” or “I give myself permission to…”
  • Make it positive. For example, instead of saying, “I don’t let people disturb my peace,” say, “I only allow positive, peaceful people around me.”

Enjoy these tips? Found this post valuable? Please share with your people who need it!

Also, if you need assistance in beginning and/or becoming consistent with your meditation practice, join the Create Your Calm Meditation Experience here.

#MeditatingInMarch: What Is Meditation?

Black Mom's Guide to Calm

This month, I’m doing a weekly series to help you get started with (or continue) your home meditation practice.

This first week, we’re focusing on what meditation is and why you need a meditation practice.

What Is Meditation?

According to YogaInternational.com, meditation is “a precise technique for resting the mind and attaining a state of consciousness that is totally different from the normal waking state.” It’s a way to understand the various levels of ourselves and ultimately experience the  consciousness within. And contrary to what you might have heard or believe, meditation is NOT a part of any particular religion nor does it have anything to do with witchcraft or “devil worship.” It actually has been scientifically proven to produce results.

Additionally, meditation can be a way to find your calm and a way to train your mind so you’re not constantly caught up in your thoughts.

It’s super important to remember that meditation is a practice. When you consistently meditate, you’ll really notice all the benefits that come with it, and your practice will become easier.

Why Should You Start (Or Continue) Your Practice?

Meditation:

  • Helps you create a more positive mindset and helps you control your thoughts.
  • Develops your intuition.
  • Decreases your tendency to worry and overthink.
  • Helps you keep things in perspective and focus on what really matters.
  • Brings your mind, body, and spirit in harmony.
  • Reduces stress.
  • Improves your concentration.
  • Helps you live in the moment.
  • Strengthens your immune system and can reduce chronic pain and cardiovascular issues.
  • Creates a sense of inner peace and calm.

“The more regularly and the more deeply you meditate, the sooner you will find yourself acting always from a center of peace.” – J. Donald Walters

Next week, we’ll be focusing on the types of meditations you can practice. If you want to make sure you don’t miss it, sign up for emails from Black Mom’s Guide to Calm (and get a free guided meditation!).

P.S. — If you want to begin now, get my two week meditation program here

Guided Meditation for the New Year

2019 is here and well underway. And it's still a great time to get excited about the magic of what's to come and set (or remember) the amazing intentions for this year. 

In this guided meditation, you'll be able to do just that. 

How to Incorporate Meditation In Your Daily Life

One of the top ways I make sure I stay calm, grounded and centered every day is by meditating. My meditation practice allows me to begin my day on a positive and peaceful note, helps me worry less, and it helps me stay in the present moment (just to name a few benefits).

If you don’t have one already (or if you fell off the wagon), I definitely recommend that you incorporate meditation in your life. In this video (from a Facebook live), I’m sharing a few simple ways you can get started:

Guided Meditation for Overwhelmed Moms

Black Mom's Guide to Calm

Although I’ve only been a mama for four years, I definitely know how overwhelming it can be. If you’re like me, not only are you raising your child(ren) and trying to be the best mother you can be, you’re also juggling a lot of other things outside of that: work (your job and/or business), relationships, making time for some sort of social life, and (hopefully) self-care, not to mention you might might be going through other life transitions and situations.

Even as the Calm Coach, I find it pretty stressful at times, trying to keep up with everything I have going on. There are plenty of times when I’m not able to check everything off of my to-do list, when things don’t get done when I think they should, and I experience mommy guilt because I feel that I’m not spending enough time with my daughter. And when this happens, I often start feeling bad about myself and beating myself up, which only leads to me feeling more stressed, overwhelmed, and frustrated. Thankfully, I have tools to help me cope; two are my favorites are meditation and using mantras/affirmations. And here’s what I remind myself:

  • I am enough, and I am doing enough.
  • I am doing my best, and that’s good enough.
  • I am a great mom.
  • I got this. Everything is going to be okay.

If you’re finding that you need a little encouragement as an overwhelmed mommy, check out the guided meditation below!

 

 

 

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5 Ways to Find Calm Through Life Transitions

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So, I recently decided to find a part-time job after years of only working from home, and I completed my first week last week. Of course, I still have my motherhood duties and my business, plus all the day-to-day things. Needless to say, it’s been a hectic week, and I’ve been feeling pretty overwhelmed by things.

Because I’m a recovering perfectionist and control freak, I felt like this adjustment process should have been easier for me and that I should have been able to get everything done for the day in spite of the fact that 1. I now have fewer hours to do things in; 2. Life — and children — don’t always adhere to the plans in your head or on paper; and 3. It’s only been a week. That’s 7 days. Still, I’ve been beating myself up because I haven’t been able to do all I want when it comes to working on my business and spending time with Nailah (enter more mommy guilt). And I haven’t figured out a schedule that works yet.

Thankfully, though, this process has been another great reminder in learning how to stay calm in the midst of life’s changes. Here’s what is working for me:

  1. Practicing mindfulness. Most of my feelings of stress and overwhelm comes from worrying about what’s not getting done or what I have left to do — and feeling like I won’t be able to get it done (which is also a waste of valuable time). I’ve been more intentional about staying in the present moment and concentrating on one thing at a time, which allows me to focus and feel more at ease.
  2. Making sure I practice my morning routine. This consists of meditating, reading/reciting my affirmations (with crystals), writing what I’m thankful for and my daily intentions, and pulling a card from my Womanifesting Fertility Goddess Affirmation Cards. Yes, I now have to get up a bit earlier to get it done before my daughter wakes up, but I can definitely tell the difference when I don’t do it (it’s not good). So, to make sure I stay relatively calm, centered, and grounded, I make sure I do these things.
  3. Being gentle with myself. As I mentioned earlier, I’ve been beating myself up about things. Therefore, when I feel that negativity trying to creep in, I remind myself that it’ll take some time to get acclimated to this new normal and to just focus on doing my best.
  4. Creating a (rough) schedule for my days/ week. Adding a job to the mix has helped me see that my days weren’t super structured before. However, I see why they should be: My days will likely go more smoothly, and I won’t feel as overwhelmed because I’ll know what days I do certain things. For example, I’ll choose one day to write, one day to create social media posts, etc. I’ll also stop adding too much to my to-do/intentions list.
  5. Allowing myself to be where I am. I think this is the biggest one for me. I tend to be someone who focuses on the future and lot and where I want to be (like I mentioned in this post). Planning and thinking of your future isn’t a bad thing in and of itself, but it can become an issue when you’re always wishing things were different or you were somewhere else than where you are now. The present moment is all there is, so I have to allow myself to simply be here, work with what I’ve got, and make the most of now.

“Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges.” – Bryant McGill

Everything Is Working Out! A Guided Meditation

When you’re going through some shit, and you’ve been going through it for a while, it can seem like it’s never going to get better. Trust me, I’ve been there, and I still have those moments from time to time.

That’s why we have to remember that no matter how it might feel or look at the moment, everything is working out for us!  This guided meditation will allow you to rest in the knowing that life is conspiring in your favor, and all is well. Watch it below.

 

Guided Meditation for Self-Love & Self-Worth

Having a healthy sense of self-love and self-worth are two important aspects of feeling whole, joyful, and a peace. Self-love can also bring your more confidence, create a more positive mindset, and allow you to better handle life’s challenges.

This video shares a guided meditation to help increase your self-love and self-worth because:

“You are a unique, beautiful soul.”

Guided Meditation to Get Grounded

Are you feeling anxious, off-kilter and all over the place? You may need to clear/heal your root chakra so you can feel more centered. Located at the base of your spine, the root chakra relates to our sense of groundedness and safety. When it’s in balance, we feel secure, safe, stable, and positive.

This guided meditation will help you balance your root chakra and get grounded!