#CalmTip: September 15th, 2015


Black Girl's Guide to Calm

Affirmations are a great way to create more peace and calm in your life. They are statements you can write down then repeat regularly so you bombard your subconscious mind with the thoughts, images, and feelings you would be experiencing if your goal was complete already. Here are a few tips for writing them:

  1. Begin with the words “I am,” and/or use present tense.
  2. Make it positive.
  3. Keep it short.
  4. Be specific.
  5. Make them for yourself.

(From The Black Girl’s Guide to Calm)



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#CalmTip: September 8th, 2015


Black Girl's Guide to Calm

Practicing mindfulness is simply being aware of the present moment, not judging or reacting to what’s going on around you. Whenever thoughts come, you observe them with a friendly interest then let them go. Today, practice mindfulness by doing one thing — and one thing only — for at least five minutes.

“Mindfulness is about being fully awake in our lives. It is about perceiving the exquisite vividness of each moment. We also gain immediate access to our own powerful inner resources for insight, transformation, and healing.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn

#CalmTip: September 1st, 2015

Black Girl's Guide to Calm

We live in a culture that glorifies busyness, grinding, and hustling. Of course, there are times when you’ll have to work a little longer than you want, and you may have to make time sacrifices, particularly if you’re an entrepreneur. But making time for rest rejuvenates your body and mind, and regulates your mood. Take breaks, and schedule time (even if it’s just 10 or 15 minutes) to rest.


#CalmTip: August 25th, 2015


Black Gitl's Guide to Calm

Focusing on what other people are doing and comparing yourself to them can cause you to feel frustrated and stressed about what’s happening in your own life. It’s important to remember that we are each on our own journeys, so there’s no point in comparing yours to the next person’s. Concentrate on creating the life you want and bettering yourself.

“The grass is always greener where you water it.” – Unknown

#CalmTip: August 18th, 2015


Black Girl's Guide to Calm

Trust the process of your life, and know that everything happens when it’s supposed to. So, don’t fret about the future, and do your best to live in the moment and take things one day at a time.

#CalmTip: August 11, 2015


Black Girl's Guide to Calm

Yoga is one of my favorite ways to find calm. Practicing yoga helps you de-stress, learn to stay in the moment, and reminds you to breathe through whatever is going on and how you’re feeling. I know a lot of people think yoga is for “flexible” people or certain body types, but it’s for everybody– and I do mean EVERYBODY. With several types of yoga to choose from, find the one that works for you, and hit that mat!

#CalmTip: August 4, 2015


Black Girl's Guide to Calm

August 1st-7th is Simplify Your Life Week! By simplifying your life, you invite more calm and peace in. One of my favorite sites, Zen Habits, has several ways to simplify your life which include:

You can read all the ideas here.


#CalmTip: July 28th, 2015

Black Girl's Guide to Calm


Talking to God and letting Him know how you feel about what’s going on in your life is a great way to find calm and ease anxiety because praying lets you know that you’re not alone and you don’t have to face what you’re going through alone.

I’m someone who finds it easier to express myself through the written word rather than speaking out loud, and if you’re the same way, keeping a prayer journal is a great way to pour your heart out to God. In addition to writing out how you feel and your desires, you can write down answers you receive from Him and how He’s answered your prayers, which can serve as a reminder of his goodness during tough times in the future.

#CalmTip: July 21, 2015


Calm Tip #6

Last year, I read a quote in O Magazine that has resonated with me ever since. Here’s what it says: “I once heard someone say, ‘If it’s not happening now, it’s not happening.’ That stuck with me — I realized there’s no reason to pre-freak out about problems. It’s made such a difference in my life.” – Aimee Mann

Pre-freaking out about the future does nothing but stress you out; and besides, you can only ever do anything in the present moment. So, focus on what’s happening now and what you can do now.

5 Ways to Find Your Calm as a Mamapreneur


Black Girl's Guide to Calm

Being a solopreneur is no walk in the park. In addition to working with clients or creating products for your customers, you usually wear all the other hats in your business, answering calls and emails, creating marketing plans, doing social media, etc. And if you work from home, you probably also have the added responsibility of keeping things tidy and maybe even cooking. Then, when you add a kid or two on top of that? Things can get more than a little hectic.

Now, I’m no expert at doing this work-from-home-with-a-kid thing; while I’ve been working from home for a few years, I’ve only been doing it with a child for a year and a half. But in that time, I’ve learned some things about finding my calm as a mama who works from home, and hopefully, they’ll help you, too. Here are five ways to find your calm as a mampreneur:

1. Meditate. (I’m sure you knew this was coming 🙂 ) Seriously, though, this helps so much. I know, as a mamapreneur, your time is limited, and you might think that you don’t have time to meditate. But, the benefits definitely outweigh how much time it takes, which, by the way, can be just five or 10 minutes twice a day. You’ll feel a lot calmer, more focused, and you’ll probably have more creative ideas that will help your business! I promise, you won’t regret taking the time to meditate.

2. Practice yoga. In the same vein as meditation, practicing yoga will help you feel a lot calmer and more focused. And don’t let the bendy yogis on Instagram intimidate you; there are plenty of other yoga poses you can do that don’t require a leg behind your neck or for you to stand on your head. Here’s a beginner yoga video from my go-to, Yoga By Candace.

3. Do less so you get more done. As entrepreneurs, we often try to cram in a dozen tasks in our days. Do we get it all done though? I know I didn’t, but that didn’t stop me from still adding a bunch of things to my to-do list. After I had Nailah and started working again, I thought I’d be able to do the same amount of work I’d done before. Needless to say, it didn’t happen. So, after I realized that what I was doing wasn’t working and that my schedule was causing me stress, I created a new one. Instead of writing down 10 things to do in a day, then getting mad at myself for not getting them done, I decided to focus on just two work-related tasks per day along with taking care of household and other things. Of course, every day doesn’t go according to plan, but generally speaking, trying to do less daily has helped me become more productive and get more of my tasks completed.

4. Take breaks. I know, it probably feels like you don’t have time to take breaks between your work and taking care of your child(ren) and home, but it’s super important. According to this article on FastCompany.com, breaks keep you from getting bored (and therefore, unfocused); they help you retain information and make connections; and breaks help you reevaluate your goals. Taking breaks will also help you feel happier and more productive.

5. Take a day. As an entrepreneur, it can be hard to take days off, especially when you’re in the beginning stages, trying to build your business and brand. It’s even understandable to a certain extent because you do have to put in the work and to get your business off the ground. However, if you choose to work seven days a week, you’ll ultimately get burned out and even make yourself sick. I personally like to take at least one weekend day off from work (or at least half a day) per week, but if you can only do one or two days a month, then do that. Figure out what works for you, and let yourself rest.

*Bonus* Accept help from your village. This one was really, really a little difficult for me. When Nailah was first born, I did not want any help. I didn’t want my parents to babysit that often (and they really wanted to since she’s their first) because my mindset was that I’d had her, so she was my responsibility. Even if that meant there were days when I couldn’t get work done because she was cranky or whatever, and I didn’t really sleep the night before. I guess I wanted to prove to myself (and others) that I could do this whole business-woman-work-from-home-mama-and-wife thing by myself. I guess you can see where this is going…it did not work. Although part of my reasoning for not wanting her to be away from me was legit (she was exclusively breastfed — wouldn’t take the bottle), I guess I can admit it was a little ridiculous. I’ve since learned that if someone wants to help me out, I need to let them. They now watch Nailah twice a week, and she even spends the night now! Every mama needs and deserves a break from time to time, and admittedly, I get a whole lot more done when she’s with her grandparents (duh). So, if you have people around you who are willing to help, let them!

What are some ways you find your calm as a mamapreneur? Let us know by leaving a comment.


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