The Power of Presence

Black Mom's Guide to Calm

As many of you know, I’ve been separated from my husband for some months now, which, of course, has cause my life to do a 180. And needless to say, I have a lot going on: My daughter and I are living with my parents at the moment, I’m building my business/empire, rebuilding my self-love and self-worth, becoming financially independent, in addition to being a mama to a 4-year-old (and life in general).

During this time, I’ve been pretty focused on my future, what I’m intending to manifest and figuring out what I want next. Now, there’s nothing inherently wrong with thinking about/visualizing/planning for your future; the issue is when you do it so much that it 1) prevents you from living in the moment; and 2) causes you to feel stressed, overwhelmed, and anxious, which is what I’ve been feeling.

Because of this, my mantra for the past few weeks has been Stay Present. As the Calm Coach, I know all about the power of being present and why I need to be. A few reasons you should be present (also known as practicing mindfulness), you:

  • stop or lessen your overthinking.
  • improve your focus.
  • reduce stress.
  • improve your overall well-being.

However, being that I’m human — with a tendency to overthink — my logic is that if I constantly plan and obsess think about the future, I’m going to make things happen more quickly and how I want them to, and I have the illusion that I’m in complete control of making things happen.

Since I’ve started being more intentional about being present, I’ve noticed that life actually goes more smoothly and things just have a way of working out. Additionally, I’m putting a lot less pressure on myself to achieve things by a certain time/date, and I’m more compassionate with myself. I also don’t beat myself up (as much) about what I don’t get done or the mistakes I’ve made. I now go with the flow more easily, I’m more peaceful, focused, and I’m more trusting of the process and the Universe.

One way to start being more present is by using mantras/affirmations. Here are a few I use when I need the reminder:

  • I focus on what’s in front of me.
  • I choose to live in the moment.
  • I trust the process of life.
  • Breathe.
  • I am enough.
  • I am doing my best.
  • I trust in Divine Timing.

“Live the actual moment. Only this actual moment is life.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

 

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